It’s #MeToo, NOT #SheToo.

I’m not going to deny it, I’ve been watching the Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard defamation trial on YouTube. What I didn’t know, was that Evan Rachel Wood, all Amber Heard style, has gathered her own personal army of accusers to target Marilyn Manson. Manson, such low hanging fruit, but wait, is he really such an easy target?

I wondered why Heards team kept bringing up Marilyn Manson being over to Johnny’s house, pointing out that they were friends. Heards team is so desperate, that they’re trying to piggy-back on to the Manson/Wood case, (that’s weird to type), in an effort to validate their position. Amber and Evan are stroking each others cases. I can’t wait to see the fallout.

I remember Marilyn Manson first hitting the music scene. I remember not being the least bit interested in his persona or his music, which I refused to give a fair chance to. Again, I’m not here to deny anything, I totally assumed, something I generally try NOT to do, that he was some type of dark metal idiot wanna-be demon and didn’t warrant my attention.

Then I saw Manson being interviewed by Bill O’Reilly on The O’Reilly Factor in 2001. Rather, I saw him shut down Bill O’Reilly in 2001. Simply put, Marilyn Manson was smarter and more eloquently spoken than Bill O’Reilly could ever be, even on his best day. Interestingly, one of Bills arguments was that Marilyn swears in his performance. Thanks to the internet, we all know that you do too, Bill, it’s not news. You do too.

Speaking of “you too,” we arrive at my point, the hi-jacking of the #MeToo movement by women, most of whom seem to be making utterly false accusations. Here’s the thing, it’s NOT the SheToo movement, it’s not about believing abuse happened based solely on the fact that the accusation comes from a woman. Lots of people are abused, like the disabled, like mothers and fathers, elders, veterans, brothers and sisters, men, women and children. They don’t all need hashtags, that would be tedious.

Men shouldn’t need a #MenToo movement, #MeToo includes them. The Amber Heard trial brings to light another “Me” in the “MeToo” that mustn't be forgotten, sibling abuse. Perhaps, instead of creating a different hashtag for every type of survivor, we can use #MeToo as it’s meant to be used, inclusively.

If you must have a new hashtag, let’s introduce #FreeWhitney, for Amber Heards sister. There is evidence that Whitney has had to endure a lifetime of abuse from Amber. Now she has even perjured herself in court for Amber and could face imprisonment. Oh, and let’s take back #MeToo for the real survivors, not performance activists.

Personally, I know what it means to be abused. I have extensive experience of it. In my day, you didn’t talk about it. In my day, if you were molested as a child, you were dirty and had it coming. In my day the penalty for molesting a child was a stern look or at most, a night in jail, rape one and you might get 30 days. Of course, that would only be if the victim had the audacity to say anything.

In my day, if you were sexually abused it was ALWAYS because you were dirty. It was always your fault, every single time, and no one wanted to hear it, no one. Years later they still don’t want to hear it, mostly because of the way they handled it, or more to the point, didn’t handle it, when it was actually happening.

Then, people from my day were seeing a culture of over-correction and cancellation, but also a rise in people talking about trauma and mental health. Granted, it’s still over-corrected, but a listening ear is something we never got. We also have the benefit of years of coping with it, off-line, where there is no platform, no event, no big online community of support. Our contribution to the #MeToo movement could have been significant, and I say “could have been” for a reason. Some of us are no longer interested. So many feel like we’ve lost our voice to these phonies.

Thanks to these liars, who all seem to have been given a complimentary kit complete with Google search links for abuse, victimhood, psychology of abuse and how to fake bruises all included. Maybe you get your own bruise kit if you pay an extra fee, that and advice about how to either pass the psych tests, or get the diagnonsense you need to further your agenda.

Yes, thanks to these manipulators, most strikingly the likes of Evan Rachel Wood and Amber Heard, people who have actually been abused, feel compelled to clam right back up again. We’re used to not being heard, we’re used to being called liars, hysterical, overly-dramatic or being told it’s our own fault. We’re used to being dismissed. The last thing we want is to say anything in a culture of women making false claims for money and attention.

These women make false claims for money, clout, followers, their brand, more money or as a means to “add their voice” to the movement, aka: make more money. They encourage their friends to dog-pile on with their own allegations, like Amber’s friends who were all leeching off Johnny Depp, like Rachel getting her pals to target Marilyn Manson like a team of well dressed female assassins, all of them nothing more than performance activists.

But this isn’t about the young, beautiful starlets and other attention seeking liars abusing the movement they claim to care about, it’s about the real survivors. I can’t speak to the younger generation and whether or not current legitimate survivors are as bothered as I am by the hi-jacking of a perfectly good movement.

I can speak as someone from my day, still coping and still never heard. It’s too late for me, a real victor over abuse. I say “victor” rather than “victim” because myself and others like me have decades of coping, often without therapy or an ear or any other type of support at all. We never got a chance to benefit from a movement allegedly set up for people like us, there’s nothing I can do about that.

What I ask you to do is to look at all the evidence when you hear accusations, no matter who is making them. Don’t cancel someone based on the word and word alone of someone who puts on a good show and is charming, young, beautiful and has the right body type. Don’t believe the claims based only on the gender of the person making them. And remember, it’s #MeToo, not SheToo.